tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1947320675744665230.post4190217458452646536..comments2023-08-16T09:57:37.493-04:00Comments on Open, new ideas for brilliant, restless moms: If you can't say something nice...Sherrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08600904912151877914noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1947320675744665230.post-30602864632131195912010-07-21T13:54:45.564-04:002010-07-21T13:54:45.564-04:00I have begun attempting the 30 min. of quiet time ...I have begun attempting the 30 min. of quiet time a day. We don't always get to it, though, but are working on it. I think doing too much does cause some behavioral issues. Unfortunately, some of Olivia's sports and activities do warrant dragging the little ones with me ... constantly.... and THAT is frustrating - OR - cutting a fun activity short to participate in a carpool or something. I've heard other mothers with older and younger kids complain about the "gap". I will take yours and your friend's advice and try to look at all these issues as teaching opportunities. Marcello is actually much better at that than I am (i.e. quick to point out how little they are or don't know about certain situations, etc.). Patience, patience, right?Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600904912151877914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1947320675744665230.post-14293763169044702452010-07-20T17:12:52.367-04:002010-07-20T17:12:52.367-04:00Okay, here to add my two cents for whatever it'...Okay, here to add my two cents for whatever it's worth...I'd like to meet a mom of multiple young ones that doesn't lose it at least on occasion! An old neighbor of mine that had 4 kids (oldest was 6!) gave good advice once that I always remembered. She said to expect your kids to do the wrong thing because that is what they do a lot of the time and they require constant teaching of the right thing to do. If we approach it like this, then we aren't so disappointed by their wrong behaviors. I find it much easier to keep my cool now that mine are at the age you can reason with them (although, I still have my days). When I feel my blood pressure rising now, it is usually because we are trying to do too much and we need to scale back on our schedule. Hang in there and remember the whole house quiet time! Even if you get 30 minutes to yourself, it can do wonders! :)Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03884188099501110472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1947320675744665230.post-256181033924964382010-07-19T15:07:56.631-04:002010-07-19T15:07:56.631-04:00I know.... intensely dislike that out of control f...I know.... intensely dislike that out of control feeling,.... AND sound. Today - though - I just don't know. Nothing is working. They are on TURBO mean, and they won't stop bothering me about the strangest, most trivial things. I am worn out and REALLY upset. I got to the gym - hit the treadmill - and started to cry (I think they were surly in the daycare there too - my greatest fear is that, one day, they won't take them back :-(. There seems to be no end in sight. I separated them - strapped into carseats - in the van, and Milo somehow pulled his seat way over to Enzo's - almost ripped the seatbelt to get to him for yet another fight - THEN Lil did that odd, slow 2 year old run - away from me, picking up speed, in the parking garage! Helps to know we've all been there.Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600904912151877914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1947320675744665230.post-28202396885469407312010-07-19T14:46:02.024-04:002010-07-19T14:46:02.024-04:00I yell. I hate it because I don't like how I s...I yell. I hate it because I don't like how I sound - as in, out of control.<br />Try STOP and NO in a firm voice, instead (?)<br />I'm also a fan of "work it out". I was tired of being the ref and once they realized I wasn't going to get involved things got a lot calmer. :)Suenoreply@blogger.com